By Marie Miguel
Building confidence is something you have to work at, believe it or not. Many of us had struggles when growing up from dysfunctional families, abuse, or other issues. We may have been bullied in school or at home, giving us a low self-confidence level. But you can change this. Whether you are a teen or senior citizen, self-esteem problems can affect anyone, and it can affect your life in many ways from relationships to your career. So, what are you going to do about it? We have some tips for you.
Ignore the Negatives and Embrace the Positive
Although it is impossible to be positive all the time, it is important for your self-confidence that you do not focus on the negatives in your life. By focusing on the positive things going on in your life you are able to ignore the negative things and eventually you will notice that there is less reason to be negative about anything.
Set Goals and Get Them Done
We all need to have a goal. Choose something you want to do, and every day do something that brings you a little closer to achieving that goal. For example, if you want to learn how to speak French, learn one or two words a day. Eventually you will be able to have an entire conversation in French. An excellent goal for self-confidence would be to focus on what you have done rather than what you have not done.
Be Mindful of Other People’s Feelings
You know that it makes you feel bad when someone criticizes you so remember that other people have feelings too. Treat other people like you want to be treated. If you know that something hurts when you hear it, then do not say it to anyone else either. Being a good person will also help build your own self-confidence.
Get Some Exercise
Any kind of physical activity increases your endorphins, which boosts your mood. These hormones are what make you feel good and the more you do it, the better you feel. So, take a walk, go swimming, or just do some housework or gardening. It all counts as exercise and it all helps increase your endorphins. Also, being in better physical condition helps your self-confidence.
Do What Scares You
Self-confidence is all about feeling good being you and not being afraid to stand up for yourself. There is no way to conquer those fears unless you get over them on your own. For example, if you are afraid to speak in public, all the counseling in the world is not going to help unless you just get up there and do it.
Stop Worrying About Everyone Else
Do not worry about everyone else. Just worry about what you think and feel. You were not put on this planet to make everyone else happy so quit trying to please everybody. Just worry about you and let others take care of themselves. This can also build your self-confidence.
You know that saying, “dance like nobody is watching?” Well, nobody is watching you right now. Dance. Dancing is another form of exercise and the music you listen to while dancing can also boost your mood. So, go ahead and turn up that song and dance! By boosting your mood, you can increase your self-confidence.
Do What Makes You Happy
Life is too short to not do what you love. Of course, we all have to make some exceptions sometimes like working at a job you do not like until you can get the job you want. But that does not mean you cannot do something that makes you happy and builds your self-confidence at least once a day.
Keep Track of Your Moods
Journaling is a popular way for everyone to keep track of their moods, emotions, and thoughts. In fact, many therapists encourage their patients to keep a daily journal so they can see patterns as to what they are feeling and how they can change those patterns, when needed. If you are one of those people who hates writing, you can do with your phone with a journaling app. Just tell your phone what you want it to keep track of and it will write it for you. Review your entries at least once a month to keep your goals on track and build your confidence levels.
Talk to Someone
Regardless of how much self-confidence you have, sometimes we all need someone to talk to. If you are having mental health issues or just have some questions or concerns, talk to a mental health professional. Betterhelp.com counselors are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. No appointment needed. And you do not even have to leave your home.
About the Author
Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.